Thursday, December 27, 2012

बदलाव की हवाएँ....



  श्रेया कबीर जो दिल्ली विश्वविद्यलय की छात्राहैं उन्होने यह लेख हमें मेल किया है।उनका कहना है कि वे हाल-फिलहाल मे स्त्री की स्थिति से बेहद परेशान हैं और अभी यह लेख लिखा है जिसे वे हम  सब से साझा करना चाहती हैं और फीडबैक भी चाहतीहै                                                                   



 Winds of change


Shyly looking through the veil,  blood-red powder in the middle of her hair and a thread of black and golden beads around her neck. She is the pretty and charming bride. Today, was her wedding. Like many other guests in the ceremony, I also stood there observing the post-marriage rituals. Though I was paying attention, I was gripped with some thoughts, I couldn’t resist thinking on.

Beautiful and tender she is, so many dreams she carries in her eyes. Its hard, hard to leave the souls who nurtured her with their blood and sweat. She knows already, there is no love in this whole world that could match her mother’s love, still she walks out of her ‘home’ because her now ‘going-to-be-mother’ has given the promise of adopting the bride as her daughter. Oh! And so she believes and so does her mother, though her heart is pounding terribly. What else can they do? They had to put faith. 

She hasn’t seen her father so weak before. The fingers, that earlier used to wipe tears away from her face are now trembling to leave her hand, to let her go.
She whispers in her mother’s ear ‘Mother, can’t you come with me?’ Speechless, her mother gazes at her face, a wince of pain and tears stream down from her already swollen eyes. If only, she could say ‘yes’ to her innocent daughter. If only, she could break the societal  fences in which she is curbed. She gently kisses her daughter’s forehead and gives her a piece of stereotyped advice, ‘now we are your second parents, your life is changed and so are your relations. You need to accept it. As a woman, you now have multiple roles, you need to fit into each role and play it very well. Don’t let us or our upbringing down. Take care.’ The girl gives the reassuring gesture and then hugs her parents tightly as if she is seeing them for the very last time. Her brother, could not believe that his little sister is now a grown up young lady, leaving him today, to enter into her new world. With a heavy stone on his heart he escorts her to the car. 

…..And she left her heavenly abode. Deserted it is without her. This is the common, moving scene in any Indian wedding! 

I was lead  into a deep contemplation. Why is the bride burdened to move to her husband’s place? Why is there such a custom? Why after marriage, her everything gets metamorphosed, even her name? Why does only her family has to go through the ache? What once used to be her priority before, why it is subordinated after she ties the knot? May be these are the lethal aftermath of marriage a girl has to go through, just because she is born as a ‘girl’. May be it is injustice, or may it is just a practice!

On second thoughts! What if the laws are reversed? What if a day comes when the groom will part with his family and his family with him? Can it happen? Will he be able to endure it? Can he put aside his ego and try to please his ‘new’ family. Can he put himself in his wife’s  shoes? Can he ever treat his in-laws as his own parents? Can his family ever agree to go through the trauma? Will they? Will he?

Such anti-societal thoughts are far from reality! Why? Because they are a toll on the patriarchal society we live in, which entitles men to be supreme. In the name of tradition, chauvinism is followed. The roots are deep and its difficult to take a leap.
I sincerely wish a day comes bringing the winds of change. Change of beliefs and most importantly change of personification!

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

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दिल्ली में चलती बस में 23 साल की लड़की के साथ बलात्कार के साथ दरिंदगी से उसकी हत्या का जो प्रयास हुआ, वो मुझे बहुत दुःख, गुस्से और हताशा से भर गया है, सुषमा स्वराज की तरह ये नहीं कहूंगी की वो लड़की जियेगी तो जीती जागती लाश बन जायेगी, मेरी आशा है कि वो लड़की जीवित बचे, सकुशल रहे और अभी अपना लम्बा अर्थपूर्ण जीवन जिये. बलात्कार एक एक्सीडेंट ही है, इससे उबरने की शक्ति वो लड़की जुटा सके...

सिर्फ दिल्ली ही नहीं पूरे देश में हर जगह बच्चों और औरतों पर हमले बढ़ रहे हैं, गोपाल कांडा की वजह से एक इसी उम्र की लड़की की आत्महत्या का मामला हो, या सोनी सोरी की हिरासत में हालत, या बारह साल से धरने पर बैठी इरोम शर्मीला का मामला, ये सब एक ही कहानी के हिस्से हैं, जगह जगह से फटे कोलाज के टुकड़े हैं . एक मित्र से बातचीत हुयी कि ठीक दिल्ली के आस-पास के राज्य हरियाणा, राजस्थान आदि में इतनी बड़ी संख्या में मादा भ्रूण हत्याएं (अमर्त्य सेन इसे नेतेलिटी कहते हैं, ख़ास हिन्दुस्तानी मामला) हुयी हैं, कहीं लड़कियां बची ही नहीं है . दिल्ली में बलात्कार, से लेकर छेड़छाड़ की घटनाओं में इजाफा भी भारी संख्या में हुयी 'नेतेलिटी' का इफेक्ट है, जो भी है, स्त्री के लिए जीवित रहना, सम्मान के साथ रहना लगातार असंभव हुआ जाता है ..

हम सब मिलकर किसी तरह इस तरह का माहौल बना सके इस तरह की घटना फिर न हो, या अपवाद भर रह जाय— चाहे जिस भी तरह से, कुछ दूरगामी प्रयोग, कुछ जल्दबाजी की सावधानियाँ, कानून व्यवस्था को चुस्त-दुरुस्त और जबाबदेह बनाकर, अपनी सरकारों और राजनितिक पार्टियों पर जनमत का दबाव बनकर, जैसे भी हो....

फिलहाल ये पिटीशन का लिंक है , इस पर हस्ताक्षर हम कर ही सकते हैं ...

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